Our Center for Elderly Suicide Prevention (CESP) provides counseling, referrals, grief support programs, and even well-being checks for tens of thousands of older and disabled adults in California and beyond. When we launched our program in 1973, older adults were the most likely age group to commit suicide, but they represented only a small percentage of calls to suicide hotlines. This inspired Dr. Patrick Arbore to form the Center for Elderly Suicide Prevention & Grief Related Services. He also founded Friendship Line in the effort to address this public health problem, and recruit volunteers of all ages who specifically chosen to counsel older people. We discovered that older adults weren't calling crisis lines, because they didn't see themselves as being in crisis. Instead, they were suffering from chronic loneliness and undiagnosed depression. After 40 years of listening, we can tell you that older adults "cry for help" in markedly different ways than teens, because depression looks different when we age.
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Depressed older adults are more likely to be irritable than sad, and to complain about physical ailments that their doctor can't find a reason for. When young people talk about suicide or say, "I want to die," older adults are more likely to say, "There's no place for me," or "I don't want to be a burden." While we are thankfully more sensitive to the effects of outside pressures on young people, such as bullying and online harassment, we miss clear warning signs with older adults. The death of a spouse, the diagnosis of a chronic or mental illness, or a lack of interest in activities they previously enjoyed are all contributors to depression in older adults. Too often these triggers are viewed as normal aspects of the aging process. And too often, older adults are reluctant to ask for help from friends and family they don't want to burden.
We are here to help 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year. We are eager to connect with anyone who might be lonely or depressed, because connections are what bind us to life.
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Dr. Patrick Arbore, Ed.D.
Dr. Patrick Arbore, Ed.D., a nationally recognized expert in the field of elderly suicide prevention and grief services, has devoted his life to increasing awareness of isolation, loneliness, and depression in older adults. Dr. Arbore’s presentations promote better-informed and healthier communities whose members have increased understanding of the issues of aging, inner loneliness, sorrow, stress, and anxiety, and reach out to listen, make connections, and support each other as we adjust to the experiences of older age.